Updated: Jul 16, 2019
I recently wrote a post entitled, "Can you have a good day without God?" The piece was motivated by my coming across a Facebook post, which was presented as a message from God that read, "Good morning, this is God. I will be handling all your problems today. I will not need your help. So relax, and have a great day." It was hard to know where to begin to address this absurd sentiment, but I gave it a shot in that blog post.
This morning I came across this statement, "The key to accessing God's power is to understand how much we need Him to do anything that's of real value in life. The truth is, whether we realize it or not, we're all desperate for God every minute of every day. I am weak, but He are strong."
Over the years in my work I have discovered what I refer to as "religious codependency," which is excessive emotional or psychological reliance on "God."
The crippling impact of religion involves the way it convinces people how weak, incapable and helpless they are. This belief and attitude is one of the greatest obstacles and deterrents to personal growth and development.
The truth is that you naturally have the ability, capacity, tools and skills to guide and direct your life meaningfully, ethically and effectively. Through the use of your fundamental human faculties such as logic, empathy, reason, critical thinking and moral intuition, you can capably lead your life.
You have the ability to take action, be effective, influence your own life, and assume responsibility for your behavior. You have the capacity for initiating, executing, and controlling your own volitional actions in the world. Where you feel incapable of doing so due to internal restraints, you have the ability to seek help and assistance.
It's important that you believe in your ability to succeed in specific situations or accomplish a task. You are capable of self-management, which is the ability of an individual to regulate their emotions and resulting behaviors in ways that are useful and beneficial for oneself and others. This includes coping with unmet wants or needs, persevering when faced with obstacles, and setting goals for oneself.
Do we do all this perfectly? No. Do we do this alone. No. We have the capacity to look upon ourselves with acceptance, patience and compassion, and not to demand perfection from ourselves. We are capable of cultivating loving and caring relationships. We are capable of seeking professional help and support when we need it. All of these actions are a sign of strength and not weakness.
The idea that you are powerless and inept to guide and manage your life is false. Some of the most important work I do with people through my Life After Religion Course and through individual counseling with people recovering from religion, is help rid them of this self-sabotaging belief.